Previously published on Medium.com Feb 15, 2020 · 4 min read
I’ve spent some time pondering this statement, which can mean different things to different people. I was listening to a webinar where it was brought to the caller’s attention that they needed to “trust the process”. The caller asked “How” and the speaker mentioned googling the term and seeing is what found.
I decided to take that advice and did so myself. In a few short articles I read, I noticed that there was a common theme regarding ‘the journey’. I am familiar with the concept, “it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey”. I’ve said it myself many times to many groups of people.
What ‘the journey’ means to me is to enjoy the ride. To find gifts along the way — that would include the people that show up to help as I move forward.
It’s the grace period that supports me.
I learn about others and what they are made of. I learn to turn to and receive help. I see the good in those people.
The ride, the journey, will include ups as well as downs — it’s not a straight line but a jagged path. It’s finding the gifts along the way — that would include the problems, the struggles and looking for the silver lining in them.
It’s the growing period where I look to overcome and rise above.
I learn about myself and what I’m made of in those times. I learn to be proactive and not reactive. I strive to be that better version of myself.
I’m not a psychologist but I am fascinated with the mind and the brain. I love to do research and see how what I learn applies to me and to others.
What I found fascinating in these few articles I read is the focus on the journey because the destination can be a let down! Or once reached, how it is viewed as what’s next….Not being satisfied, wanting something more.
I started to think about a couple of my past posts and how I shared I don’t believe in making resolutions but in setting intentions. Resolutions are about the end and intentions are about the journey.
It’s the same with goals. I don’t use that term. I also use intentions. Why? Again, intentions aren’t about the end, it includes the beginning and the middle. Once I reached what I intended, I enjoy and celebrate it as I did while on my journey to it. And the end…well, there is no end.
If you are reading this, you are on a journey as well. Actually, we all are on a journey, I’m looking to attract those that are conscious of this. We are all looking to reach a destination, a better perceived place. But it doesn’t end there, it starts a NEW journey.
When you get to where you want to be:
Will you celebrate it? Will you enjoy it?
Will you live there in gratitude? Will you stay there in peace?
I’ve learned that people that are “goal oriented” tend to be just about the goals. And when it’s just about the goals, there is always that longing for more and what’s next. This might seem like a road to success, but with this mindset, it is a path to toxicity, and is destructive to your well being. It takes away the pleasure and the peace of accomplishing what you set out to do.
It could be considered shallow. For example, take weight loss. One can set a goal to lose 25 lbs and then reach it. The focus is only on the end result, once reached, one can feel kind of empty. Now what? Then the weight goes back on.
With setting an intention to lose 25 lbs, the focus is not just on the end…There is no end to that journey. The weight is lost, and the journey continues to maintain and keep it off. You keep learning as you go and you grow into becoming a better version of yourself.
I encourage you to enjoy the journey and realize that it is never ending. Take the ups and downs, find gratitude for what you go through and grow through it.
Do you resonate with what I have shared? I would love for you to comment below.
Until next time ~