This quote came from the book “Welcoming the Unwelcome” by Pema Chodron.
She shares that we should be thanking that person that is causing us grief! Not to their face, but in our heart.
Granted, it’s hard to see it when you’re in it!
That said, is there a part of you, maybe a very small part of you, that might ‘see’ this — if so, then you can open up to it.
As sad as it was to have my husband leave me, in his doing so, this is allowing me to focus on me, to take care of myself, and become the best version of me.
Not stand in his shadow but create what I desire. The focus is now on me, stepping into my power, not him and trying to help him.
We just moved into a NEW year, the beginnings of a NEW decade and it all starts with today. The year, 2020- a number many of us will associate with vision, what’s actually considered the perfect vision.
What is your vision — what do you see for yourself on this NEW day of this NEW year of this NEW decade? I follow many inspirational/motivational people that speak about how we are the creators of our lives.
What this means to me is that the way I look at things creates how I view my life, which produces how I chose to live my life.
Do you see the world as a positive place, or a negative place?
Do you see life happening for you or to you?
Do you ask why is this happening to me, or come from a place of what am I to learn from what is happening?
I used to come from the negative, the happening to me, the why me….I lived in a place of anxiety, lack, fear. I judged others, complained, was caught up in the drama of life. I would numb myself with food, with alcohol — I even numbed myself with Xanax.
I look now and think of how I wasn’t living my life, I was just existing… Can you relate? I know I’m not alone with this, but I ultimately felt very alone.
One day, and I can’t remember exactly how, I came upon Wayne Dyer. He is known as the Father of Motivation — and with great reason!
His quote was a game changer for me:
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change….
Through his words, I started to open my mind. I started to take a NEW view on what was happening in my life. I started looking to find the peace, the abundance, the love.
I started to see that I had much to be grateful for.
Having 20/20 vision is perfect vision but only in a ophthalmologist or optometrist’s office. I’ve come to learn and discover that there is no perfection — we strive for it, and then we fail. We cannot attain perfection… so stop trying!
Instead I look to be a better version of myself — I encourage this of you as well.
It takes the pressure off, it takes the judgement out. It gives us a break. We stop beating ourselves up. It allows us to see ourselves for who we are and to recap scenarios of our lives and how we can change our reactions the next time. To be proactive and not reactive.
It allows us to accept ourselves.
It makes us mindful.
It makes us responsible — which is our ability to respond to any situation.
It gives us the power to control ourselves, which is all that we can control.
Science has proven that our brains are not hard wired. We have the ability to train our brains, to think differently. It’s called neuroplasticity. And before I even heard that term, I saw that this was indeed possible.
I am living proof.
As we enter this NEW year and NEW decade, I ask you to join me on making a NEW start. Let 2020 be a time to create a NEW vision for yourself and your life. I want you to see that it can begin with changing your view…
