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  • What’s With The Term — Trust The Process?!

    What’s With The Term — Trust The Process?!

     Previously published on Medium.com Feb 15, 2020 · 4 min read

    I’ve spent some time pondering this statement, which can mean different things to different people. I was listening to a webinar where it was brought to the caller’s attention that they needed to “trust the process”. The caller asked “How” and the speaker mentioned googling the term and seeing is what found.

    I decided to take that advice and did so myself. In a few short articles I read, I noticed that there was a common theme regarding ‘the journey’. I am familiar with the concept, “it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey”. I’ve said it myself many times to many groups of people.

    What ‘the journey’ means to me is to enjoy the ride. To find gifts along the way — that would include the people that show up to help as I move forward.

    It’s the grace period that supports me.

    I learn about others and what they are made of. I learn to turn to and receive help. I see the good in those people.

    The ride, the journey, will include ups as well as downs — it’s not a straight line but a jagged path. It’s finding the gifts along the way — that would include the problems, the struggles and looking for the silver lining in them.

    It’s the growing period where I look to overcome and rise above.

    I learn about myself and what I’m made of in those times. I learn to be proactive and not reactive. I strive to be that better version of myself.

    I’m not a psychologist but I am fascinated with the mind and the brain. I love to do research and see how what I learn applies to me and to others.

    What I found fascinating in these few articles I read is the focus on the journey because the destination can be a let down! Or once reached, how it is viewed as what’s next….Not being satisfied, wanting something more.

    I started to think about a couple of my past posts and how I shared I don’t believe in making resolutions but in setting intentions. Resolutions are about the end and intentions are about the journey.

    It’s the same with goals. I don’t use that term. I also use intentions. Why? Again, intentions aren’t about the end, it includes the beginning and the middle. Once I reached what I intended, I enjoy and celebrate it as I did while on my journey to it. And the end…well, there is no end.

    If you are reading this, you are on a journey as well. Actually, we all are on a journey, I’m looking to attract those that are conscious of this. We are all looking to reach a destination, a better perceived place. But it doesn’t end there, it starts a NEW journey.

    When you get to where you want to be:

    Will you celebrate it? Will you enjoy it?

    Will you live there in gratitude? Will you stay there in peace?

    I’ve learned that people that are “goal oriented” tend to be just about the goals. And when it’s just about the goals, there is always that longing for more and what’s next. This might seem like a road to success, but with this mindset, it is a path to toxicity, and is destructive to your well being. It takes away the pleasure and the peace of accomplishing what you set out to do.

    It could be considered shallow. For example, take weight loss. One can set a goal to lose 25 lbs and then reach it. The focus is only on the end result, once reached, one can feel kind of empty. Now what? Then the weight goes back on.

    With setting an intention to lose 25 lbs, the focus is not just on the end…There is no end to that journey. The weight is lost, and the journey continues to maintain and keep it off. You keep learning as you go and you grow into becoming a better version of yourself.

    I encourage you to enjoy the journey and realize that it is never ending. Take the ups and downs, find gratitude for what you go through and grow through it.

    Do you resonate with what I have shared? I would love for you to comment below.

    Until next time ~

  • How a Pandora Charm Helped Me

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    How a Pandora Charm Helped Me

    Originally published on Medium.com Jan 12, 2020.

    A few years back when the Pandora bracelet was all the rage, there was an offer in buying a certain amount of product to received a free new bracelet.

    I’m all in for a bargain! I choose the Essence Collection. And the charm that that caught my attention and called to me was the wisdom charm. I liked the way it looked, and I liked the meaning.

    I was at a point where I needed some wisdom — going through what I was facing, which was a big challenge and some big changes.

    In receiving the bracelet/charm, there was a card enclosed which read:

    You gain through experience. Every episode in life is of value….

    I cannot tell you how powerful those words were to me — and how much I really needed to hear that! I felt it was a sign. A sign in a Pandora store of all places….

    Who knew that free bracelet would have priceless advice?!

    It reminded me once more that I needed to trust the process of life. That what was happening was happening not ‘to’ me but ‘for’ me.

    In hindsight, that scary time was actually kind of a beautiful time! I look back and see that what I went through tested me. At that point, it was out of my hands. I had to turn strongly to my faith and had to trust not only the process, but the person who came forward to help me…

    …And I had to do some work on myself. I was so worried and wasn’t sleeping. I decided to spend time and money with courses to help me understand, to evolve.

    If that challenge didn’t happen, I would not have invested in those programs, invested the time — invested in myself as I did. I would not have been as far along. I would not have grown as quickly as I did.

    I’m not perfect, no one is. I still have growing to do, but I am a better version of myself. And I’m grateful for each experience, which was there to support me in where I am now.

    In the moment, it’s hard to see the bigger picture.

    I encourage you to try — see the light among the darkness. Find a piece of the silver lining. In doing so, you can begin to move forward.

    Trust the process, find some hope.

    To not stay stuck, to go from a victim to a victor.

    To realize that like the card from Pandora, Every episode in life is of value…

    Until next time ~

    Be Well,

  • What Does Life Want From You?

    What Does Life Want From You?

    What Does Life Want From You?

    Originally published on Medium.com Jan 11, 2020

    We seem to live in a world where the focus is on what we are getting out of it. The ideal career, the big money, the perfect mate, the perfect kids, the big house, the luxury car — the dream life….

    What if we started to look from a place of what we are giving to the world?

    Yesterday, I published a meme from Eckhart Tolle asking us to rephrase the question of What do I want from life? to What does life want from me?

    If you are reading my articles, you are someone in transition. Someone who is going through challenges, someone who is looking for hope that all of this will one day make some sort of sense.

    I know this as I was someone (and still am) in transition. Going through challenges, that I started to see as opportunities. Yes, opportunities to realize who I am and what I am made of.

    Coming from this concept allowed me to have hope — that what I was going through, I was growing through. Evolving to become my true version of myself.

    We are not all the titles we once held, but are souls having a human experience. It started to make such sense to me. That what was happening was happening for my highest good —and for all our highest good.

    I am a better version of me. It’s not about perfection, as there isn’t any. I am in a better place than I once was and the experiences I faced, helped me to move forward to become who I am now. And to allow me to continue to grow.

    Part of who I am now is someone who desires to help other women, mid life, transition and become their best versions.

    To see our second half as our best half.

    To not age, but to become ageless through holistic measures.

    Who are you now becoming?

    What is leading you to your better version?

    We look for the destination, but look at the journey and what you are learning and discovering along the way.

    You might not have wanted this life, but — What does life want from you?

    Please feel free to comment and share.

    Until next time ~

    Be Well,

  • Change

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    Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change…

    Originally published on Medium.com January 1, 2020

    Photo by David Travis on Unsplash

    We just moved into a NEW year, the beginnings of a NEW decade and it all starts with today. The year, 2020- a number many of us will associate with vision, what’s actually considered the perfect vision.

    What is your vision — what do you see for yourself on this NEW day of this NEW year of this NEW decade? I follow many inspirational/motivational people that speak about how we are the creators of our lives.

    What this means to me is that the way I look at things creates how I view my life, which produces how I chose to live my life.

    Do you see the world as a positive place, or a negative place?

    Do you see life happening for you or to you?

    Do you ask why is this happening to me, or come from a place of what am I to learn from what is happening?

    I used to come from the negative, the happening to me, the why me….I lived in a place of anxiety, lack, fear. I judged others, complained, was caught up in the drama of life. I would numb myself with food, with alcohol — I even numbed myself with Xanax.

    I look now and think of how I wasn’t living my life, I was just existing… Can you relate? I know I’m not alone with this, but I ultimately felt very alone.

    One day, and I can’t remember exactly how, I came upon Wayne Dyer. He is known as the Father of Motivation — and with great reason!

    His quote was a game changer for me:

    Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change….

    Through his words, I started to open my mind. I started to take a NEW view on what was happening in my life. I started looking to find the peace, the abundance, the love.

    I started to see that I had much to be grateful for.

    Having 20/20 vision is perfect vision but only in a ophthalmologist or optometrist’s office. I’ve come to learn and discover that there is no perfection — we strive for it, and then we fail. We cannot attain perfection… so stop trying!

    Instead I look to be a better version of myself — I encourage this of you as well.

    It takes the pressure off, it takes the judgement out. It gives us a break. We stop beating ourselves up. It allows us to see ourselves for who we are and to recap scenarios of our lives and how we can change our reactions the next time. To be proactive and not reactive.

    It allows us to accept ourselves.

    It makes us mindful.

    It makes us responsible — which is our ability to respond to any situation.

    It gives us the power to control ourselves, which is all that we can control.

    Science has proven that our brains are not hard wired. We have the ability to train our brains, to think differently. It’s called neuroplasticity. And before I even heard that term, I saw that this was indeed possible.

    I am living proof.

    As we enter this NEW year and NEW decade, I ask you to join me on making a NEW start. Let 2020 be a time to create a NEW vision for yourself and your life. I want you to see that it can begin with changing your view…

    Here’s to YOU in 2020!

    Be Well,