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  • Today Is A NEW Start… (Once Again)

    Originally published on Medium.com Jan 25, 2020

    Photo by Jared Rice on Unsplash

    It’s near the end of January, and for about 80% of people the New Year resolutions are already over. And some haven’t had the chance to even start yet.

    Today, January 25th, is your ‘second shot’. It’s the Lunar New Year.

    So many of us put ourselves last. The guilt factor comes in with all that we have going on. We just don’t have enough time in the day — or do we?

    I shared in an earlier post that I set intentions instead of making resolutions. For me, intentions make it about the journey. Resolutions make it about the destination.

    I set the intention on January 1st to practice yoga. Something I used to do, when I had more time…

    Guess what, I will never have more time unless I make more time — and I did!

    How? By limiting some time wasters — like cutting down on social media and emails. That sure opened up extra time for me.

    Putting the focus on my life instead of everyone else’s is giving me the ability to do what is good for me.

    If that sounds selfish or indulgent to you, I ask you to take a deeper look inside. As women, it seems to be an unwritten rule that we should put ourselves last…

    …Yet, it’s such a necessity to put ourselves first — take care of ourselves so we can take care of anyone who needs us. Not to mention, if we don’t take care of ourselves, who will?!

    Put the oxygen mask on first…..

    Making me time each day to practice yoga is helping me to feel better. I’m more flexible, it’s relaxing, I’m sleeping better, and I’m proud of myself.

    Yes, I said it! Proud of myself! When we do something that is really good for our overall well-being, we should feel proud — which can be a foreign feeling for many of us. We beat ourselves up way more than ever praise ourselves.

    What’s keeping me going? I’m aware of how I am now feeling . I’m focusing on the benefits!

    Did I mention it’s also easy?! I go to YouTube and make a selection — most days it’s 30 minutes. There are times when it’s 10 or 20. All depends on my schedule and that’s just fine.

    It’s in my time frame and in the comfort of my home.

    No excuses.

    As I mentioned, today is looked at as another chance at a fresh start. Realistically, every day is a chance to do that.

    What intention have you, or are you going to set to take care of you? How are you proud of yourself?! Please share below.

    Until next time ~

  • Why No One Can Hurt You

    Originally published on Medium.com Jan 16, 2020 

    Photo by Steve Halama on Unsplash

    I was talking with a friend who made a statement regarding the fact that he never wants to hurt anyone. How many of us share this sentiment?

    Not wanting to be the source of someone’s pain.

    Pain will enter our lives — but the suffering comes from within….

    I’m talking about mental, emotional pain of course, not physical pain.

    I was reflecting upon the conversation this morning when this thought came to me:

    No one can hurt you. If you feel hurt, it’s because you are allowing that feeling in.

    I could consider this thought as NEW, but it’s something I have followed for awhile. How long? At least 5 years.

    It was five years ago in November that the man I vowed to spend the rest of my life with decided he was leaving.

    Did I hurt when he said he wanted a divorce? That our 29 years together was over?

    YES!! — how could I not, phrased that way?!

    Look at some of the facts:

    ~We were together for 29 years. I thought we would always be together.

    ~He left me for someone else.

    ~I would have to leave the house we raised our family in. (had to sell)

    ~I was losing my family unit.

    ~I was losing the identity I had of who I was — wife, homeowner, resident of my town, etc.

    I have been on a spiritual journey (on and off) most of my life. At this point in time, it was ‘game on’ for me to step up to a deeper level.

    My mantra was, “To find peace among the broken pieces”

    So I looked again at the facts (above) and took another view…

    Look at some of the facts:

    ~We were together for 29 years. Some great years, more recently not so great.

    ~I grew up with him (met him when I was 21). And I continued to grow, he did not and therefore we were growing apart.

    ~He left me for someone else, but mentally I left him much sooner. I was feeling stuck but felt I had to stay.

    ~He was brave enough to want something more, to not settle any longer.

    ~Our family home was too big and with our kids in their early 20’s, we would have ended up downsizing sooner than later.

    ~The family unit was ending, but the memories are always there. And our family unit was changing with my son looking to move out and my daughter in college. ~I wasn’t all those titles I held. And titles will come and go over the years and have. I discovered who I really am, which is a creation of God with a part of Him inside of me. THAT will never change. (Guess what, we all are :).

    So as I have laid out, there are two ways of looking at things. We get to choose! If I chose to view it as my ex hurting me, he has power over me. I would stay stuck and struggle to rebuild my life.

    By choosing to see that through the pain I was feeling, only I create the suffering, I have the power! I can freely move forward. There will still be moments of sadness, but they are just moments.

    I choose to see what happened ultimately as a gift. A gift of my freedom and the hope for a better life for myself.

    As Wayne Dyer once said, “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”

    I see friends and even strangers continuing to live those vows made on the altar… til death do us part. Many unfortunately, are dead before they actually die…

    My friend’s thoughts of not wanting to hurt anyone may actually help in the healing of someone who reads this article with an open mind and heart. Thank you my friend for the inspiration :).

    Until next time ~

    Be Well,

  • Don’t Make Any Resolutions in 2020

    Don’t Make Any Resolutions in 2020

    Originally published on Medium.com Jan 5, 2020

    Photo by Dawid Zawiła on Unsplash

    It’s a NEW year in a NEW decade — it’s a time for a NEW beginnings, right?? So why start with an old philosophy that will end about a month or so later?!

    Instead, what I look to do is set intentions on what I desire.

    One might argue that resolutions and intentions are the same thing just worded differently. I see resolutions as what my mind wants and with a dead line. Intentions are what my soul is requiring for growth, it’s the journey.

    A resolution is wanting to lose 10 lbs (might as well add, “by ‘x’ amount of time”). That’s because it’s focus is on the outcome, which never seems to be soon enough. And if reached, hard to maintain because it’s focus is just about how we look better.

    An intention is wanting to be physically (and mentally) healthier. It’s the journey that takes us there with the outcome being not only weight loss but so much more. We learn to not only lose but how to maintain because the focus is on how we overall feel better.

    Resolutions seem to add to our already stressed out lives. It puts more pressure on us to produce and is not forgiving when we don’t. It closes us up. It comes from the negative. It’s the all or nothing thinking, the black and white world.

    Intentions allows us to move in the direction we desire, but in a gentle manner. It is forgiving, it allows us to understand ourselves, nurture ourselves along with way. It opens us up. It comes from the positive. It’s a world that’s ‘gray’.

    Resolutions: It’s holding tight — it limits us. It also gives us an out as it’s well known that most don’t stick with resolutions. We might not even try all that much, and all that long.

    Intentions: It’s letting go — we release, we allow and flow. It helps us stick with what we look to accomplish. And appreciate what we learn about ourselves along the way.

    Intentions are not just for the start of a NEW year, but for the start of each NEW day.

    One tip I love, from Dee Wallace, is the set your intention every morning. Wake up with: Today is a great day! Yes, ‘is’ not ‘going to be’. By stating it that way, you are directing the energy to be that, as if it is already happening.

    One of my intentions, one that I have had for years (as again, there is no time limit on intentions) is to be ageless.

    What does that mean to me?

    To continue to be youthful — not feeling my age, not looking my age, not acting my age (ha! that can be taken two ways, can it not?!).

    Basically, through holistic measures, being healthy, vibrant, mentally sharp…

    …Making the second half of my life the best half.

    How? With each article I write, I look to share tidbits. And in the community I intend to grow, so much more. In this article, it’s about coming from a place of peace and positivity.

    What are your intentions? I’d love for you to share in the comments below.

    Until next time~

    Be Well,